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At Work, You May Fire Yourself

By Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC - Love/Relationship Columnist - HealthNewsDigest.com
Aug 19, 2012 - 11:54:26 AM



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(HealthNewsDigest.com) - HOUSTON (FOX 26) - Getting laid off has been in the news lately and it looks as though the trend may continue to grow. It's one thing when you get a pink slip from your boss, but quite another when your behavior leads to your being terminated.

Job experts including Charles Purdy, senior editor at jobs site Monster.com, as well as staff from Forbes were asked about the most disgusting behaviors employees engage in at work. Most of the experts agreed, there is a long list of behaviors that employees should never exhibit at work, whether it 's for reasons of being a good co-worker or being someone that the company values. They listed things such as messy desks or cubicles. Food placed openly and without care at their desk was also thought disgusting. These are behaviors that involve manners and consideration of others, as well as treating others with respect.
The six behaviors below are behaviors that I find personally difficult to work with in the work place. I work at three different places, and these behaviors are more common than you may imagine. Of course there are degrees, for example, we all may have one or two negative days. But, when you are a negative person and every day is a negative day it zaps not only your energy but everyone else's as well. Eliminating the six behaviors below may not save your job, but it will make you an easier, more effective person to work with. The following behaviors take so much time from the employee acting them out, (and their co-workers) that eliminating them would afford everyone more time to work and achieve their goals.

1. Negativity. Some people come to work with a bad attitude. It may
be from their home life, or their personality. People who are negative cause negativity at work. No matter how bright a negative person may be, they will cause a low mood at work, and they also seem to take more sick days than more upbeat optimistic people.

2. Truth seeker. A truth seeker comes with an attitude of self
righteousness. The problem with their truth is by the time they have twisted it in their mind, it may look like a version of what happened, but it isn't reality of what happened. Truth seekers are more difficult to identify in an interview; however, when you get your first taste of it, do not put off sitting down and talking to them. Tell them directly that you asked all of your sources what happened, and no one else's story matched theirs. Majority wins in cases involving a truth seeker. The truth they see many times is fabricated (although they may not see that).

3. Gossip. There is no room for gossip in the work place. In work
climates where there is tension of males and females you cannot avoid it.
People at the top should remain squeaky clean by not spreading gossip. The best way to handle gossip is to find the ring leader and have a one on one meeting with them. Or find a job that will be benefited by someone who likes spreading someone's personal information to others.

4. Temper tantrums or bullies. People can control others with their bully behavior or by having a dramatic temper tantrum. They are out of control in their personal lives though, without appropriate anger management.

They scare others, and end up only hearing what they want to hear. No one wants to work with them or for them very long. If you have one in your work place, I would suggest mandatory anger management classes to be completed prior to a bonus. If they didn't learn to manage their anger growing up, you are an enabler if you hire them and do nothing when they exhibit this behavior.

5. Passing the buck. People who pass the buck basically never take responsibility for their work. They may dabble in it, and pass it on to someone else. When confronted about their lack of detail to the task at hand, they will say something mundane such as "I didn't know that was what you wanted." However, never once did they ask for clarification of what the task demanded. People who do this type of work are killing time, collecting a pay check, and have no interest in what the position calls for, or what the team is trying to accomplish. Sometimes if you let this type of employee go, in a couple years with a little bit of maturity they become much better at seeing the detail.

6. Drama Kings and Queens. People who use their cubical, platform,
or stage at work to humiliate, cry, shout, or throw something at someone else do not belong at work. If an employee cannot control their heartfelt passion or channel it into something good for the good of the company then they should not expect their co-workers, boss or team to be impressed with their behavior. I personally see this sort of tactic as manipulative and I don't appreciate them acting out their stuff at work. When I am at work, I am there to accomplish a goal. I look to others for help in accomplishing that goal. Someone who needs extra attention to help manage their own feelings or behavior should seek help with a professional after work hours.

As mentioned in the beginning, we all have bad days at work. However, if you read this and believe you are acting like one of the previous individuals more days than not while at work, it may be wise to change your perspective and behavior before there are enough complaints brought against you.

Once that happens, it is a slippery slope to being handed a pink slip.

Everyone is nervous about the economy and their job security. Understanding the job you have chosen and agreed to perform, it will be best for everyone if you do your part to make the work climate enjoyable for all rather than miserable for yourself and co-workers. Focus on the goal and do your part to achieve it.

- Mary Jo Rapini

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