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Love/Relationship Columnist Author: Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC - Love/Relationship Columnist - Last Updated: Feb 15, 2014 - 11:29:26 AM

5 Things Real Men Want in a Woman

By Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC - Love/Relationship Columnist -
Feb 17, 2014 - 12:04:30 AM

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( - When's the last time you dated a real man? Not a guy, not a boy, but a real man who was mature emotionally, physically and spiritually? If you're like many women, you probably will say never or not for a long time. You cannot attract what you aren't, and this is a big part of the problem. Guys who are emotionally immature attract emotionally immature women. These women leave these guys with a false idea of who women are, and what they're like. Women aren't the only ones who suffer in this false assumption. Emotionally mature guys suffer too, because they are judged to be just like the immature guys the woman dated.

No matter what survey you research, you will find 5 common characteristics that real men like or need when they are describing their perfect woman. If you are dating or looking for your perfect man, instead of assuming it is all about sex, or moving in with them, or playing the game well, you would be wise to ask yourself this question, "Am I trying to be too perfect for the wrong kind of guy?" Real men don't want you to be perfect, nor do they want you to try too hard. They want you to be a real woman.

1.      Emotionally mature guys want you to feel good about your body and yourself. You may think that talking about your fat thighs or cellulite will make them feel about you as a person, but it doesn't. It makes them take notice of what they didn't, and they see it as a downer.

2.      Emotionally mature guys want you to be independent. A guy who is mature in himself will not be intimidated by your success, brains or wit. He will be turned on by it.

3.      Emotionally mature guys want you to be playful. Women are under the assumption that if they are playful it will seem too bold or sassy. If he is emotionally mature he will delight in your humor.

4.      Emotionally mature guys want you to be emotionally mature. Guys who are emotionally mature are not into drama, they don't want to know every small detail of who said what to whom. It doesn't build a connection to see you acting petty, or not being honest in conversations due to fears of losing him.

5.      Emotionally mature guys want you to be attractive. Women who take care of themselves are able to relax in a relationship and be real. Guys aren't comfortable with women who try too hard or go to extremes to look a certain way. They much prefer women who will enjoy dates and not move things too fast. Chemistry is important, but you cannot pay for it in a salon, clothing store or boutique.

Most of us make our judgments about men and women from the men and women in our lives. But when you work with men and women, you begin seeing that those judgments we make rather casually have more to say about us, than about whom we are dating. If you want an emotionally mature man or woman, then be emotionally mature. -Mary Jo Rapini

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