The Best Weapon is Kindness
Jan 4, 2018 - 12:47:14 PM
Research shows that your brain senses other people’s pain as its own. Specifically, your brain’s pain-processing areas (particularly the insula) activate when you perceive other brains’ pain areas activating. This is particularly true for people you care about and love.
I should recognize the wisdom in this science. The person who hurt me actually hurt him- or herself. There may be a time lag in this realization, but it will eventually catch up with the person. My default should not be to seek revenge, for revenge won’t undo my previous hurt, nor will it teach me or that person anything new. Revenge will only seed future reasons for hurling hurts. I should instead be compassionate to that person.
I should focus on his or her benign intentions, if they were indeed benign. For intentional hurts, I should recognize their origin in ignorance and, while doing everything I can to protect myself, be compassionate for that ignorance.
With my kindness for others, I will more easily find kindness for myself. I will uncover gratitude and meaning and thus come to acceptance and forgiveness. All these will help inspire the perpetrator to be kind.
There are situations where I have to put up a fight. In most circumstances, I have found the best weapon is kindness.
May you need no other weapon than kindness to negotiate (and win) your daily battles.